Taylor Swift' double album, should delete your ex's location.

I don't know if you've heard, but Swift released some time ago a double album that partly tell about her breakup with her boyfriend of six years, Joe Alwyn, and, in an even bigger part, about her situation which lasted for months. with controversial 1975 frontman Matt Healy. 

Don't worry too much about the billionaire; she is now in a relationship with football star Travis Kelce. But the album isn't about @killatrav. This double album is about Alwyn and Healy and, above all, the humiliation of a public breakup.

In one song, The Black Dog, Swift talks about looking at her ex's location on, presumably, the Find My app.

I am someone who, until recent events / You shared your secrets with / And your location  / You forgot to turn it off / And so I watch as you walk / Into some bar called The Black Dog / And pierce new holes in my heart / You forgot to turn it off / And it hits me / I just don't understand

Despite, breakups aren't very pleasant, there is nothing inherently wrong with tracking your partner's location or sharing your location with them.  This is someone you loved, or at least loved. Maybe you wanted to know their location to know how long it would take them to get home, so you would know when to start dinner; you wanted their location so you could give them a quick kiss at the bar on the way to the train.

But once you break up, be an adult and see that you lose location tracking. Of course, it's uncomfortable to remove location tracking because when you do, it notifies the other person. They know you don't want to see where they are, or you don't want them to see where you are – and frankly, that doesn't sound very nice. 

As with much of Swift's work, this is relevant. Once you break up, you lose location tracking. When you're going through a breakup, it's difficult for you and your ex to disentangle your digital lives from each other, despite you wanted the location to surprise them with flowers.. 

I'm obviously not in a position to give Swift any personal advice, but here's some advice for the rest of us normies: Don't track your ex's location after your breakup. It may seem like stalking an ex on social media, but at least they control what they post publicly, and unless they've blocked you, they know you can see their updates. Tracking someone's location after your breakup is literally stalking.

More than that, and my deepest sympathies to any Swifties who might disagree with me, the song plays with the idea of how painful it is to see the location of one's ex, but it doesn't do that. a way that implies she's in on it. joke; this only compounds the irresponsibility and insanity of tracking an ex's whereabouts. That's a truly unusual thing to admit, even if Swift is nothing more than a brutal diary.

Which leads me to wonder: where are Swift's friends? If a friend of mine tracked their ex's location, saw he was going to a bar, started talking about how it was "punching new holes in (their) hearts" and told me or someone of our other friends, we would do so immediately. point out how deranged they had become. We would tell them it was weird and unfair to their ex and that they should delete their ex's location from their phone. It would be an immediate, devastating and unpleasant interaction. But it would save them the heartache and, at the very least, prevent them from speaking publicly about it, as Swift did.

My advice: Please stop tracking your ex's location. 

Don't let your ex track your location. It's better for your brain, it's better for your heart, and it's better for your relationship – or lack thereof – with your ex. Bullying is not the cornerstone of anything worth building, including a path to reconnection or recovery. And while you're at it, maybe don't look in people's windows either.